wedding // guest list c/o

wedding // guest list.

our wedding invitations have arrived. and our dining room table is currently being hidden under mountains of paper + envelopes.

my mom is graciously making her way to des moines this weekend to join [J] & I’s production line. we have agreed to pay her in bloody marys + breakfast burritos at the first downtown farmer’s market of the year. which just so happens to be taking place this weeknd. [and I’m so excited].

we’re slowly making wedding planning progress. very little no thanks to me. basically [J] is a saint.

I need to know ..

is it common to put the guest first in every decision you make for your wedding? I’m struggling to find the balance between what I want & what I feel is best for our guests. in truly, every decision. where we’re registering. if I’m having a bridal shower [because I don’t want my guests to feel they have to travel twice]. if cake or cupcakes would be more enjoyable. you get the drift. I just need to know if it’s normal.

obviously [J] & I are beyond thankful + blessed to have so many amazing people in our lives. and we want them to not only celebrate our marriage by our side, but also enjoy themselves. but when do you draw the line?

wedding // guest list c/o

a peak at our save-the-dates.

happy hump day.

we’re halfway there ..

12 thoughts on “wedding // guest list.”

  1. my two cents: food, entertainment and venue should be all your decision and based on what you want. for example, we wanted cupcakes, chicken and veggie options, and a band. i didn’t care what the guests would like. BUT, for other things, like price of hotels, where to register, etc., we kept the guest at top of mind. basically the things that would make their lives easier. if it didn’t ease our guests lives, it was all us. you’ll find the right balance!

    1. I hope you’re right on finding the right balance. I think I’m torn because we’re having a destination wedding, and I feel like I’m already asking so much of our guests that gifts & additional traveling are just that much more of a burden. I’ll get there ..

  2. I think you need to focus more on what you and J want, and not worry what others are going to think because at the end of the day you can’t please everyone!

  3. I’m a firm believer in your wedding, YOUR decisions. (I mean, unless a choice of your would offend everyone, but I’m betting that’s not the case!). If you want cupcakes, get cupcakes. If you want cake, get cake. If you want a shower, have a shower. I believe that most people are responsible and if they can’t afford to travel, then they’ll send you their best wishes and they won’t. As for a registery, just have a wide range of items so people can buy someone smaller if that’s what they can afford, or something bigger if that’s what they can afford. :)

  4. I think it’s normal to feel the way that you do right now, but do remember that it’s YOUR day. That’s nice that you’re thinking of your guests though too :)

    I agree with Ange on the registry thing. Register for a wide range of things when it comes to pricing. Definitely a good idea!

  5. OMG your save-the-dates are gorgeous and so unique!! So I have no experience in planning a wedding, however I think you should make decisions based on what best reflects you and J as a couple. As long as your requests are not totally unreasonable, you should go ahead and do what makes you and J happy!

    As for registry, I have heard that registering at two places that are convenient for most (Target, Dillards, etc.) and one that is maybe a little higher in price (Pottery Barn, Crate and Barrel, etc.) is common. All of your guests will want to buy you gifts that you enjoy (and they will want to feel good about what they give you as well), so again, wherever you think people will be able to find gifts that are 1) reasonable and 2) fit you best as a couple would be good options.

    hope all is well with you! enjoy this special time!

    1. thank you libby!!! and thank you for the sweet note on the save-the-dates. my fiance designed them (along with our invites) and is quite proud. he is really hand to have around. as far as the registry goes, I love everything you said. I think we’re registering at Kohl’s (because I’m obsessed & you can get everything), Macy’s, and a couple of things from Crate & Barrel. Let’s just say registering for gifts isn’t as fun as I thought it’d be. (thank you again for your kind words!!).

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